As women, we tend to feel insecure at times about our connections with the opposite sex. Men and women can be so opposite when it comes to how we connect. Scoring the attention of your dream guy is challenging enough, and then.. we have to KEEP their interest.
Before you can keep his interest, you have to gain his interest. Connecting with a guy is very organic. It doesn't require any extra effort. There will be immediate unspeakable attraction if you are to "connect" with a guy.
Your chemistries will collide and you won't be able to control it. Don't try to force any connection just because he seems like someone you should be dating. When you find yourself in a position to meet new people and you see a guy who may be a potential future partner check your own instinctive feelings. Do you feel a spark between you when your eyes meet? Do you feel super comfortable talking to this guy? Do you naturally laugh at each other's words and are you able to continue a conversation without force? If the answers are "Yes", then you have absolutely connected with the right guy.
But how do make sure he is feeling it too? Do you make the first move? Less is more sometimes. You want to let him know you are interested without over doing it.
Keeping a man's interest has a lot to do with common ground. Suggest doing something you BOTH love to do. As women, we do tend to want the attention that comes along with being wined and dined, but you also have to keep him happy. Relationships go both ways- even in the beginning. If he talks about tequila all the time, then find out where the hot spot is for Mexican food or think outside of the box and do some research for a tequila tasting and surprise him. Pay attention to the music he listens to. This is a great opportunity to splurge on a concert for the two of you. Keep your ears open and be present when he is talking. Take mental notes of what his interests are, then plan something you will both enjoy together. This will show that you are attentive and thoughtful. If he loves being outdoors, plan a beautiful hike somewhere he has never been. Enjoying activities together can deepen a bond. Men love the camaraderie they receive from their buddies and they look for that in a relationship also.
Keep yourself in mind too and make sure you are choosing something that you will mutually enjoy so there is balance in the relationship and you aren't just working to please him. If you begin putting yourself last and pretending to have common interests, resentment will build... and this relationship is going no where.
The last one is very simple. We all know men are very visual. This doesn't mean you have to tack on fake lashes and wear heels every time you're in his presence. You have to be confident in your own skin. Confidence is the hardest thing to fake. If you feel confident and sexy, it will show. Make sure to take care of yourself. Men notice the little things like your hair, skin, and nails. Stars like Blake Lively and Jessica Biel are some of the most naturally beautiful celebrity wives there are. Jessica and Blake are having no trouble keeping their men happy. This is undoubtedly because of their beautiful souls and sweet personalities, but their flawless looks have something to do with it too.
For Jessica's glow, try Lancom glow silky creme hilighter over your liquid foundation. It's subtle, soft, and low maintenance. You can even apply with your fingers. It's only $30 at Sephora! We suggest dabbing a little bit of this hi-lighter over Nars Sheer Glow Foundation also available at Sephora.com.
Blake also goes for a natural look (MEN LOVE NATURAL BEAUTY)! Blake tends to go for playing up her brows and hair.
For healthy hair, nails, and brows Biotin is an inexpensive vitamin and it's an effective way to improve your beauty. Also try texturizing sprays in your hair to give a naturally beachy look that smells AMAZING! Stars like Kim Kardashian swear by Oribe Dry Texturizing spray $44. If you want a more beachy look as opposed to a dry texture try Bumble and Bumble's beach texture spray. The most affordable and effective dry texture spray is by far Moroccon oil spray for $11!
Make sure to put cream on your face and body so you are looking fresh and have a nice glow to your skin. The effort will not go un noticed. We suggest this Emulsion Moisturizer available on Amazon.com .
Exercise to improve your outer appearance, and meditate to work on your inner. Confidence, fitness, and health are the most important things you can master when it comes to beauty. Wear things you feel good in. If you are happy with who you are, and give off positive energy, no doubt you will exude happiness and radiance and the guy will stay put! Don't forget to make yourself happy too, because a happy girl is a BEAUTIFUL girl.
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